I burned out twice before I understood what was really driving it.
For years, I lived the way many women do: carrying too much, pushing through, and trying to live up to expectations – mine and others’.
The first time I burned out, I recovered physically, but I didn’t yet understand the deeper pattern underneath it. So I went straight back into over-functioning, still driven by the fear that if I slowed down, dropped the ball, or delivered less, I was somehow failing.
And I burned out again.
Recognising the underlying fear
It wasn’t until I recognised the underlying fear of not being good enough, and the way it was driving my over-functioning, that I could truly interrupt the pattern and change course.
That was my turning point.
Now I help women recognise that pattern sooner, so they don’t have to wait for burnout to force the issue.
What changed
Recovering from burnout did not teach me how to become a whole new person.
It taught me something more useful than that.
It taught me to notice the cost of self-override earlier.
To stop treating exhaustion as something to push through.
To question the idea that rest had to be earned.
And to build a way of living that did not depend on constantly proving that I was good enough by how much I did.
That experience shapes the work I do now.
At 54, I earned a Diploma of Counselling. At 60, I founded my coaching practice. Not because I had everything figured out, but because I understand this pattern from the inside and know how much it matters to interrupt it sooner.
Who I Work With
I work with women who are exhausted from carrying everything and can feel that something has to change.
Often, they are still functioning. Still dependable. Still the one others rely on. But the pressure never really lets up, and slowing down feels risky because it brings up fears of failing, disappointing people, or not being good enough.
They are not weak.
They are not incapable.
They are often deeply conscientious women who have spent a long time measuring themselves by how much they can hold together.
If that feels familiar, you are in the right place.
What Working With Me Feels Like
Coaching with me is
practical, steady, and emotionally grounded.
It’s not about pushing through with a better plan.
It’s not about performing healing well.
And it’s not therapy.
It is support that helps you understand the pattern you are in, interrupt over-functioning earlier, and make smaller, steadier changes before you hit your limit.
No pressure.
No fixing.
No pretending you’re fine when you’re not.
I’ll help you notice what is no longer sustainable, loosen the grip of measuring up, and build change you can actually maintain.
What Working With Me
Feels Like
Coaching with me is
practical, steady, and emotionally grounded.
It is not about pushing through with a better plan.
It is not about performing healing well.
And it is not therapy.
It is support that helps you understand the pattern you are in, interrupt over-functioning earlier, and make smaller, steadier changes before you hit your limit.
No pressure.
No fixing.
No pretending you’re fine when you’re not.
I’ll help you notice what is no longer sustainable, loosen the grip of measuring up, and build change you can actually maintain.
This is
Your Turning Point
You don’t need to wait for burnout to justify change.
If you can already feel that the way you’re living is costing too much, that is reason enough to respond.
Let’s explore whether coaching is the right next step for you.
Some Quick Facts About Me
- I’m an introvert who prefers depth over small talk.
- I’m a big-picture thinker and a natural pattern spotter.
- I care about honesty, depth, and getting to the real thing beneath the surface.
- I love learning and can happily disappear into a good question for hours.
- Quiet time by the ocean resets me fast.
Let’s chat about what’s next for you.
